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A yeshiva in Israel once rented a bus to go on an excursion. Whoever wanted a seat on the bus had to pay in advance and was given a ticket with his exact seat number on it. On the day of the trip, a boy boarded the bus and saw that there was someone else sitting in his seat, the one that he had paid for. He then discovered that this other person did not pay for a seat at all. He started walking over to the one in charge to tell him to remove the boy from his seat, and one of the rabbis saw what was happening. He told this boy, “ Vatranut , giving in on your rights, is a very virtuous mida .” The boy said, “But rabbi, I paid and he didn’t.” The rabbi replied, “ Vatranut is not when you’re 99% right and the other party is 1% right; it’s when you are 100% right and you still give in.” Although we hear many stories about the great segula of being mevater , it’s never enough, because we always need chizuk in this area, being that it’s so hard to give in, especially in the heat of the moment. A rabbi told me there were once two boys in his yeshiva that were arguing with each other all the time. It bothered the rabbi a great deal and it was having a negative effect on the yeshiva. One day, he called a meeting with these boys and taught them the unbelievable segula of giving in and making peace. He told them, “Give in to each other and make shalom and then you could ask Hashem for whatever you want.” The boys were moved by the rabbi’s plea, and they agreed to make peace. About five weeks later, one of the boys came back to the rabbi to thank him. He said Hashem answered the tefila that he made that day. He said he has a 30 year old brother who is not married, and he asked Hashem to bring him his shidduch . The very next day the shidduch was suggested and now, 5 weeks later, they were going to celebrate the engagement. The following year, the rabbi made a brit milah for his first son in the yeshiva. The other boy came to him at the milah and said, “Hashem answered my tefila .” He explained saying, “The rabbi had four girls and expressed his desire to have a boy. I prayed to Hashem that day for the rabbi to have a boy and, baruch Hashem, here we are celebrating the brit milah .” The rabbi went on to say that was the only boy he ended up having. The power of vatranut is amazing. Rabbi Elimelech Biderman told a story about one of his own students which took place just a few weeks ago. The man and his wife rented a hall to make a sheva berachot on lel Shabbat. They came on Friday to set it up and they saw the place was set up already for a different sheva berachot. The wife told her husband, “Let’s just be mevater without telling anyone anything and leave now. Being mevater always gains.” The husband agreed and they found a different shul who let them use a room there for their sheva berachot and they quickly set it up. The woman said later, her father was going in for a surgery to remove a cancerous growth that week. When they opened him up to remove it, they saw that it was gone. The husband told Rabbi Biderman, he remembered a similar story that Rabbi Biderman told just a couple of weeks before that gave him the chizuk to be mevater himself and now he experienced the exact same yeshua . And then he added, “In your story, rabbi, the people were already fighting and then one party gave in. In my story, we gave in before the fight even started. You see from here the segula of being mevater works even if there never is a confrontation.” It is absolutely true that being mevater always gains. We don’t always get to see the immediate benefits of it, but we can rest assured that Hashem appreciates every effort we put in when being mevater and He will reward it at the proper time.