Miscellaneous
My first podcast! I thought I'd start off with some recurring themes from our Healthy Boundaries for Kind People work. Here's the thing: those challenged by boundaries and/or people pleasers tend to both bend over backward to meet the needs of others, while also feeling pathetic and "needy" that they have needs of their own. Oh, we are a funny species! So, I thought I'd offer you a different way of looking at it and a few "hows" to get you out violating your own boundaries to please others. Here are a few things I'd like to highlight from this episode: - Please consider my favorite tools of context, nuance, and discernment to see what rings true for you. (2:29) - Why I think traditional boundary strategies and advice, fails kind people. (It's a trap!) (4:10) - We can acknowledge someone's needs without having to meet those needs.(5:43) - We're willing to violate our own boundaries to prove our worthiness to others. (9:17) - You can care about someone's feeling without becoming the caretaker of their feelings. (10:56) - People pleasing is often an attempt to manage someone else's emotional response. (12:31) - When my clients dig into the deep boundary work, they often discover that they're not as good as they think about honoring the boundaries of others. (15:54) - Honoring your own boundaries helps others to see that you have them. (17:29) - We honor our boundaries (and show deep respect for others) when we shift from the person who has to "save" them to the person who believes in them. (17:55) Links: Healthy Boundaries for Kind People (begins in September) Slow Business Adventure in Norway (September)