Self-awareness or Hiding?
Society & Culture
Here’s an episode that will keep you waiting for the next one. Tune in now!You know your attachment style. You know your triggers. You know where the pattern came from. You can explain your behaviour beautifully.
So why does actually feeling what is happening still feel so difficult?
In Episode 17 of Beyond the Checklist, Coach Nomie explores what happens when self-awareness quietly becomes another form of emotional avoidance.
For high achievers, expats, global citizens and chronic “figure-it-out” people, analysing emotions can feel safer than experiencing them. If you can understand it, label it and explain where it came from, you can maintain some sense of control.
But insight is not integration.
In this episode, we get into:
• Why psychological language can sometimes create distance from vulnerability
• Intellectualisation as an emotional defence
• Why understanding the origin of a pattern doesn’t automatically change it
• The difference between feeling an emotion and acting on it
• Why expats and highly adaptable people may become skilled at observing themselves from the outside
• How achievement and competence can become emotional armour
• Why contradictory emotions don’t need to be “solved”
• A CBT reframe for the fear that allowing an emotion will make you lose control
• What your constant analysing might be protecting you from having to admit, ask for or change
Plus, we have our AITA-style dilemma, Psychology Deep Dive, Tarot reflection, book and show recommendations, Mindset Makeover, CBT Reframe and my take for the week.
Because sometimes you don’t need another explanation for why you feel the way you do.
You need to stop explaining long enough to actually feel it.
If you’re successful at functioning but disconnected from what is happening underneath, DM ALIGN to learn more about working privately with Coach Nomie through the Inner Alignment Reset.
Coach Nomie. Feel it. Face it. Choose different.
#HighAchieverHealing #ExpatWellbeing #EmotionalAwareness #InnerWork #SelfHealing
So why does actually feeling what is happening still feel so difficult?
In Episode 17 of Beyond the Checklist, Coach Nomie explores what happens when self-awareness quietly becomes another form of emotional avoidance.
For high achievers, expats, global citizens and chronic “figure-it-out” people, analysing emotions can feel safer than experiencing them. If you can understand it, label it and explain where it came from, you can maintain some sense of control.
But insight is not integration.
In this episode, we get into:
• Why psychological language can sometimes create distance from vulnerability
• Intellectualisation as an emotional defence
• Why understanding the origin of a pattern doesn’t automatically change it
• The difference between feeling an emotion and acting on it
• Why expats and highly adaptable people may become skilled at observing themselves from the outside
• How achievement and competence can become emotional armour
• Why contradictory emotions don’t need to be “solved”
• A CBT reframe for the fear that allowing an emotion will make you lose control
• What your constant analysing might be protecting you from having to admit, ask for or change
Plus, we have our AITA-style dilemma, Psychology Deep Dive, Tarot reflection, book and show recommendations, Mindset Makeover, CBT Reframe and my take for the week.
Because sometimes you don’t need another explanation for why you feel the way you do.
You need to stop explaining long enough to actually feel it.
If you’re successful at functioning but disconnected from what is happening underneath, DM ALIGN to learn more about working privately with Coach Nomie through the Inner Alignment Reset.
Coach Nomie. Feel it. Face it. Choose different.
#HighAchieverHealing #ExpatWellbeing #EmotionalAwareness #InnerWork #SelfHealing