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In this solo episode the LOA Gals talk about a topic that has been popping up in many conversations over the past few months - narcissism. But, before getting to narcissism and gaslighting, Holli an Jeanna share the current life happenings: HOCO is really a FOCO this year for most high schoolers...but the glam squad, gorgeous dresses, fabu shoes, and HOCO fun filled Holli’s house this weekend! It’s also Halloween time - and the LOA gals (thanks to Holli) have a third member, It, in the stu. What is it, you ask? Oh, hell yes...it’s a Peloton! ...and Holli’s shoulder and neck are feeling it’s presence most. Holli shares about her recent trip to Washington DC and a wonderful visit with a wonderful woman who ordered ‘just a mimosa’. By the end of the conversation, they were fast friends and Holli’s new BFF was ordering ‘a mimosa’! It’s never ‘just a mimosa’! The LOA gals very appropriately share a disclaimer before launching into the conversation and awareness building around narcissism and gaslighting: Neither Holli nor Jeanna are therapists or physicians. Please seek professional help if you need assistance dealing with critical issues impacting your health or wellbeing. ‘ The conversation shares more about what to look for when if you think you are dealing with a narcissist: Begins with a pronounced effort to ‘win you over’, lots of charm, showing you with compliments/gifts, etc. Once you are committed to this person (whether they are your romantic partner, if it is a friendship, a boss, etc.) the showering of attention, compliment, support shut off - if not actively withheld. The effort to win you over is replaced with bravado. They lie, manipulate and gaslight you instead with no remorse. Often they show a very different persona when they are interacting with your friends and family. Gaslighting is a tactic that is often used by one member of a relationship to manipulate or disorient another member. The name of the tactic came from a play/movie in the mid-1900’s. The LOA gals point out that if someone is gaslighting it does not mean they are a narcissist. LOA Uncorked Uplevel Assignment: Let’s all stop saying ‘you are crazy’! Let’s honor people’s perspective and don’t question their sanity if you disagree or don’t see something the same way. It’s unnecessary roughness! If you suspect you are dealing with a narcissist in a key role in your life - be sure to seek professional support. Claim your space, learn tactics, and be very clear what your boundaries are and own your reality - do not doubt yourself! As always, thanks for listening and we look forward to sharing more LOA badassery conversations with you! Please consider leaving a review and subscribing or dropping us a note to say hi and share your thoughts via: Our Website / Contact via Email / YouTube / Instagram / Facebook: loauncorked