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Live once, try twice and don't die wondering
My Enlightening Chat with Trish from Be A Lady
I recently had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Trish, the amazing woman behind Be A Lady, and let me tell you - it was one eye-opening conversation! As someone who's personally explored cross-dressing, I was thrilled to chat with someone who's dedicated her life to supporting people like me on their journey of self-discovery.
Right from the start, Trish's energy was infectious. We kicked things off with some fun rapid-fire questions about clothing preferences, and her motto "live once, try twice and don't die wondering" really set the tone for our entire chat. I love how she approaches everything with such openness and enthusiasm - it's exactly what this community needs.
What really struck me was hearing about how Trish started Be A Lady. She shared this fascinating story about her early days working in adult shops and her first encounter with cross-dressing clients. You could really hear the passion in her voice when she explained how she went from being somewhat naive about the whole thing to creating this amazing safe space for people to explore their identity.
One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was when we dove into the challenges many cross-dressers face. Trish revealed that most of her clients are secret cross-dressers who haven't come out to their partners, which really hit home for me. We talked about how society's attitudes are slowly changing, but there's still so much fear and stigma to overcome. It's why spaces like Be A Lady are so incredibly important.
The way Trish described the transformation process at her service was absolutely beautiful. It's not just about putting on makeup and a dress - it's about that moment when someone looks in the mirror and sees their true self for the first time. She told me about clients having these incredible moments of realization, saying things like "Oh my God, that's me. The real true me that needs to shine every now and again." Those stories gave me goosebumps.
We also got into some really interesting discussions about the emotional and erotic aspects of cross-dressing, which I know can be a sensitive topic for some. But Trish approached it with such professionalism and understanding, explaining how it's all part of exploring one's identity and feeling sexually empowered. It was refreshing to have such an honest, judgment-free conversation about these aspects that often get swept under the rug.
Throughout our chat, we kept coming back to this idea of self-discovery and personal liberation. Trish's approach really resonated with me - she believes in creating a space where people can safely explore who they are, try new things, and never have to live with the regret of wondering "what if?" Her service isn't just about transformation; it's about empowerment and acceptance, something that I think we could all use a little more of in our lives.
Introductions and Icebreakers (00:00:04) Jenny welcomes Trish, light banter, and a series of fun rapid-fire questions to loosen up.
Origins of "Be a Lady" and Cross-Dressing Community (00:02:01) Trish explains the beginnings of "Be a Lady," her adult shops, and her first experiences with cross-dressing clients.
Generational Change and Evolving Terminology (00:04:30) Discussion on changing attitudes, language, and acceptance of cross-dressing and trans identities over the years.
Secrecy, Stigma, and Relationship Challenges (00:06:56) Exploring the stigma around cross-dressing, secrecy, and the impact on relationships and family life.
Personal Disclosure and Acceptance (00:09:16) Jenny shares her own journey of coming out to her partner and the emotional aftermath.
Fear of Disclosure and the Role of "Be a Lady" (00:11:27) Trish discusses clients' fears of being discovered and how "Be a Lady" provides a safe, supportive space.
Booking and First-Time Experiences (00:14:06) Trish describes the process of booking, the initial phone call, and what clients experience when they arrive.
Studio Environment and Makeover Process (00:15:37) Details about the studio setup, clothing, wigs, and the transformation process for clients.
Emotional Release and Safe Expression (00:17:47) The emotional impact of cross-dressing, including fear, excitement, and the importance of non-judgmental support.
Therapeutic Value and Overcoming Shame (00:20:34) Jenny and Trish discuss the therapeutic benefits of open conversation and confronting internalized shame.
Progression and Returning Clients (00:23:01) Clients' journeys from first visits to more public outings, and the importance of ongoing support.
Generational Differences and Early Experiences (00:24:43) Reflections on how younger generations experience more freedom, and Jenny’s early cross-dressing memories.
Eroticism, Play, and the "Itch" (00:27:07) Exploring the erotic, playful aspects of cross-dressing and the persistent "itch" or urge to dress.
Integration and Public Outings (00:34:07) Jenny seeks advice on integrating her feminine side and what it’s like for clients to go out in public.
Societal Judgment and Changing Perceptions (00:37:21) Trish shares experiences with societal judgment, stigma in the adult industry, and her mission to help others.
Popular Looks and Makeover Choices (00:40:00) Discussion of the most requested styles, the fascination with breastplates, and the evolution of clients’ desired looks.
Admiration, Self-Love, and Female Energy (00:44:15) The desire to embody and be admired as a woman, and the intoxicating experience of feminine energy.
The "Be a Lady" Experience and Impact (00:48:09) Trish emphasizes the unique, affirming experience her studio offers and the lasting impact on clients.
How to Connect and Final Advice (00:48:40) Trish shares her social media and website, and offers advice: "Live once, try twice, don’t die wondering."
Reflections on Trying Twice and Personal Growth (00:50:18) Jenny and Trish discuss the importance of trying things more than once and embracing self-expression.
Closing Remarks and Podcast Outro (00:52:53) Jenny thanks listeners, promotes her website, and encourages audience engagement.
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