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Do you ever feel like you deserve a medal for "doing it all"? Well, you don't. But I'll let today's guest explain why. On today's episode, we are meeting Ashleigh Renard, retired competitive figure skating coach and author of Swing: A Memoir of Doing It All. Tune in to hear how she rehabbed a shabby marriage and wrote a book about it. In our conversation, you'll hear Ashleigh unravel the story a lot of us have adopted that perfectionism deserves praise. As Ashleigh puts it, "perfectionism is the only addiction we envy". This is especially true for women, even truer for mothers, and even truer, still, for mothers consuming content online. We believe we need to "do it all". We lower the bar for others while raising it for ourselves. If its easy, we are failing. And then, when we inevitably feel burnt out and unhappy, we feel immense shame for not being grateful for our lovely looking lives. This only leaves us feeling more isolated and lonely as we keep trying to make everything appear perfect. Well, eventually the perfect bubble bursts. Problems we avoid always come to surface. Anger and resentment shoot out sideways. And something's gotta give! In listening to Ashleigh's story, you'll figure out what that something is. TALKING POINTS: + Doing it all doesn't equate to having it all + Unpacking the "martyrmom" complex + Perfectionism is cause for intervention, not praise + Learning to give ourselves the love we deserve + Doing things we judge/envy others for + Dismantling the cultural conditioning around gender ~ CONNECT WITH ASHLEIGH: Website Instagram Pre-order her book and get a FREE audiobook ~ CONNECT WITH LAUREN: + Instagram + Tik Tok + PerfckedPodcast.com + Facebook ~ AFFILIATE LINKS + CODES: + Hello Fresh $40 off + Tonic CBD 10% off with code: perfckedpod + MudWTR coffee alternative + Poshmark $10 toward first purchase with code: loeyblog + ThredUp online thrifting $20 to shop ~ Please, please, please! Rate, review and tell your friends! You're my perfcked people and I want more of you in our tribe. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/perfcked-podcast/message