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Scheduling and time management can be stressful as it is, but in a marriage with 2 individual’s separate schedules, it only gets trickier. Have you ever had a miscommunication when scheduling an event or appointment for both of you? This brings us to round 2 of The Fight Series! ’Tis the season for holiday cards, and along with that comes the beautiful photos you want displayed. When booking with the photographer, Ali looked at their extremely busy calendars, and went ahead and booked the time slot she knew they all had available. The night before the scheduled photo shoot, Mark realized the time booked was not the ideal time of day for photo taking, AKA the ‘Golden Hour’. Mark knew the 10:00 AM time slot would bring harsh lighting and argued that it was not the atmosphere he wanted for these important pictures and requested that Ali reschedule. Here’s where it all went downhill. Mark wanted the perfect picture and as a result, was losing the big picture. The photographer, of course, had no availability that evening or for the next month or so…. it was looking like they wouldn’t get an appointment for weeks. Ali just wanted a picture. She was upset about having to re-schedule with the photographer, and in the heat of the moment, she brought out all of the ‘leftovers’ of the past month. All of those little burdens she’d been carrying around came out. So no pictures?! What’s the lesson learned here? How could this whole fight have been avoided in the first place? Have you ever gotten into a disagreement and felt the urge to bring up past feelings because they somehow feel relevant? Let us know in the comments on the episode page!   In this episode, you’ll learn… The importance of communicating the little things to avoid big fights. Why in detail conflicts like this, you have to really take the time to hear and understand each other. That it’s natural to feel past issues arise in a current argument and how to manage that. Why you need to tuck away any past resentment in a pretty little box, and focus on the issue at hand to get real conclusions. For a happy ending, we did get pictures.. and at Golden Hour so you better believe they were good!   Quotes: “If we didn’t communicate that could’ve been a pretty significant downward spiral.” “The things that are said and sometimes the things that are unspoken can be damaging. If they’re left unchecked they can kind of fester.”   Links: Sign up for the Mind Body Maintenance Course Check out the full post for this episode Find Resuscitate Your Marriage Online Follow Dr. Ali Novitsky and Resuscitate Your Marriage on Facebook | Instagram  Mind Body Marriage Novitsky MD   Drs. Ali and Mark Novitsky, a married team of physicians who live in Philadelphia’s quaint suburb of Chester County. Together, they operate “Novitsky MD -Boutique Mind Doctors”, a center located in Chadds Ford, PA that has married traditional Psychiatry with newer cognitive life coaching.   Get The Results You Want With Cognitive Behavioral Coaching! Ali Novitsky MD, the Life Coach for Women Physicans and busy professional women teaches the fundamentals of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and effective goal setting. Learn more at: www.mindbodymarriage.com