028: The Boundary Mistake Everyone Makes

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This episode speaks directly to the overfunctioning woman tired of shrinking and sacrificing her peace. Through honesty and gentle clarity, we explore how boundaries are less about control and more about positioning yourself in your truth. If you're ready to unlearn the trauma responses that keep you stuck and build a foundation rooted in self-respect, this is your starting point.


Key Topics Covered:


Why most women struggle with boundaries and what forces them to overfunction

Boundaries as a form of self-responsibility, not selfishness

The difference between expressing preferences and taking action to protect your energy

Why your capacity is not a character flaw, it's a human need

The "Name It" boundary-setting framework: Notice, Articulate, Make It Known, Enforce

How childhood environments conditioned us to see boundaries as selfish or dangerous

The power of clarity in relationships. Beth from Yellowstone versus Monica from Friends

Reframing belief: boundaries are about safety, maturity, and respect

Practical steps: starting a resentment log, communicating boundaries, and enforcing them

Permission to say no, change your mind, and prioritize your well-being


Resources & Links:

Back to Basics Toolkit (free)

Book: Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free by Nancy Levin


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Remember: Boundaries are your permission to show up as yourself;softly powerful, deeply honest, radically responsible. You don’t have to shrink anymore. Your peace is worth it.